Many people worry, “Is it bad to ask someone if they’re suicidal?” We may believe that just by asking, we could put a dangerous idea in someone’s head. However, the reality is that’s NOT TRUE. Actually, asking someone directly if they’ve ever thought of killing themselves is extremely important. If you believe someone you care about is at risk, you should be specific. Ask, “Have you ever thought about killing yourself?” Although it may feel really uncomfortable to ask directly, you should still do it.  Research suggests that this is the best way to effectively help someone who is potentially in great danger. 

Suicide is not a new concept. You will not be implanting an idea in their head.  Actually, you’ll be giving someone who is in a bad situation a chance to talk.  If they aren’t suicidal, they’ll tell you that.  However, if they are suicidal, you’re helping them connect at a time when connection is critical. If someone feels like they have no one to talk to, they may become more suicidal.  By asking them directly, “Have you ever thought of killing yourself,” you take away some of the fantasy of escaping their problems.  For more on the sometimes overly romantic ideas people have about suicide, check out this week’s blog, The Romantic Ideas Behind Suicide.